Valentine's Day is mostly associated with romantic love, but in some ways romantic love is the most shallow form of love. It may feel vast and deep and dizzying, but it is surface sparkle! and often merely a mirage of what we want to see. A bit like the ego fooling itself. Only when it is tested by hard times, illness or loss can you know that a romantic love is true. I'm not knocking it, though. True love, when you find it, is something to be cherished and nurtured. It is something to be celebrated! But it's not the only kind of love and if you happen to be on your own this Valentine's Day, don't be blue. Romantic love is all fine and dandy, but there is a greater love – and this is something innate within you that you can give to your self. It's called compassion.
Why is compassion a greater form of love? Because it acts beyond the ego. It enables us to love even when we don't really want to. We see that someone who on the outside is ugly (in appearance or deeds), is the same as us on the inside. Compassion lets us give them the 'benefit of the doubt', so to speak, so that we can get past our own affront and love the person, who is actually suffering. Through compassion, we can connect on a human level. We all suffer; we are all imperfect. It can be hard to give compassion to someone who has hurt you, and has no intention of apologising or changing his/her behaviour. So first be compassionate with yourself. No one is expecting you to be like Mother Teresa or Guan Yin. These are very special souls. But it is in your own interest to forgive and move on. Compassion will help you to do this.
Life is in constant flow and we meet all these kinds of love in various amounts and forms. But remember that 'Love is a currency in reverse – the only way to be wealthy with it is to give more of it away' ~ Shane Koyczan.
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